Friday, June 24, 2011

Stephanie Tanner said it best, "How rude!"

Listen up, ladies (and the few guys that read, too)!  When somebody so kindly invites you to a party (or any event that would warrant an invitation), répondez s'il vous plaît!  Seriously, it is just rude to not reply.  Here is your lesson.  Pull up a chair and grab a piece of paper... You'll want to take notes.

If you can not attend, or don't even want to, THAT'S OK!  That is an option!  Just call me, email me, text me, get a hold of me SOMEHOW and tell me, "Sorry! Ain't happenin', sista!"  I don't care what your excuse is.  I just want to know if I should plan for your attendance or not.  Obviously I want you there because I invited you, but if you can't, NO BIGGIE.  I hate the excuse, "Well, I didn't call you because I didn't want you to be mad at me for not coming."  To that, I give you a mental punch to the face, NOT because you didn't come, because you were rude and didn't tell me.  If attendance was REQUIRED, the invite would have said that.  When you see those four letters, that means that I understand that life happens and I may not be your first choice... Just RESPOND!

If you can come, don't assume that I already know that.  If I did, I would not have requested an RSVP from you!  Duh.  When I plan birthday parties for my girls, I usually don't request an RSVP from family.  For one, I'll most likely make the same amount of food whether or not one or two people don't show up.  Secondly, their parties are usually at my house so I don't need to give any sort of facilitator a head count.  BUT, should I happen to request a reply, there is most likely a reason behind it.  Do it!

Now, I get that it's not always black and white (dot blogspot dot com).  You may have an instance of, "Gosh, I already have something going on that day but if I can leave a little early, I may be able to make it..."  Than TELL me that!  I will probably just quickly text you a few days in advance and be like, "So, do you think you might be able to make it?"  To that, RESPOND.  Don't ignore.  Don't say that you never got the text because I will ask you to prove it.  Just reply to my text. 

Lesson learned?  GOOD.  If you are already taking the time to open and look at the invitation I sent you (and marvel in my creativity), take the time to look at your stupid calendar and at least text me!  Trust me, I'll be more ticked off at the fact that I can not read your mind and so therefore I have to call YOU, than I would be if you told me you can't come.  Deal?  Oh, and in case you were wondering, this applies to ALL invitations you receive, not just ones from me ;o)

Oh, and just so you know... I have not recently planned a party and not NOT got a reply.  This is just a general kick in the tush :o)  You're welcome!

Have a great weekend!


SpontaneousMom said...

I sosooooo agree with you! and even with Evite- I hatehatehate when I can see that people look at the evite but don't respond- really? COME ON!
And on that same note- don't say you are coming- then come up with some STUPID excuse last minute of why you aren't-
News flash- I can see through your stupid excuses people-
LOL- glad someone else feels the same way.

Lala said...

Oh, good, because I was going to have to let you know that I did NOT get my invite. :)

I understand how you feel. It's kind of par for the course here, though. It's one of the reasons I hate having organized events. People can be so flaky.

Kelsey said...

I think it is so rude too. I just send out invitations for my sons birthday and I know most of our friends WILL not RSVP even though I put it on the invite. Then I will end up calling around to make sure I have enough treat bags and food made up.

I often feel like people my age (mid 20s) just have no manners or formal invitation experience. For the most part, my friends send out invites via Facebook and I HATE that! It sends a message of laziness and is not very personal.

LOL - you got me on a tangent.
-Kelsey :)

Dawnisha said...

Amen Sista! :)