Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Dating Again...

First, I want to congratulate Jackie!  She won the Madagascar LIVE! tickets!!  I hope you and your little sis enjoy the show :o)

Back to the topic: Dating AGAIN.  No, Mike and I aren't separating... I'm talking about Mom Dating.  It's funny how when I found Mike, I was happy to not be dating anymore.  The whole scene always seemed so fake to me.  Now, almost eight years later, I find myself in a similar situation.  I have some really great girlfriends but most of them do not have kids yet.  It's hard to make time to hang out with them anymore because I have the added responsibility of finding a sitter for the girls.  Plus, if the grandmas aren't free that evening, a $20 night out turns into a $40 night out after I pay my sitter!  Then, when we do hang out, I find it hard to converse because really, if you don't have kids, you don't want to hear about Ariel, Belle, or any of the other princesses that make up 90% of my conversations at home.  This middle ground is a little weird and uncomfortable at times.  It would be great to have more girlfriends that have kids.  Then, not only can I bring my cuties with me, but I have someone that can relate to my 26 minutes of personal time a day.  I have someone else that regularly carries around fishy crackers, crayons, and wet wipes in her purse.  I have someone else that knows how good it truly feels to sit down with a glass of wine after the kids are sound asleep.

I've said it before and I'll say it again.  I'm a blog stalker.  I find you and I hide behind the curtains and secretly watch you until I work up enough guts to say hello.  Silly, I know but that's the way I roll.  I am currently reading a certain mom blog.  I can relate 100% to this momma.  In fact, I know her in real life and actually see her quite often.  I just can't work up the courage to "ask her out."  It is so much like dating, it's scary.  What if she doesn't like me?  What if she thinks I'm annoying?  What if she doesn't want to hang out?  What if she reads MY blog??  Our girls are a year apart and they know each other.  It would be so much fun to get together with them, let the kiddos play, and just talk to another mom.  See?  It IS like dating again... and I thought I was DONE with that!

11 comments:

Shannon said...

P.S. If you FB friends are wondering about that super useful tutorial, my sewing machine got the flu... Stay tuned!

Jackie said...

I am super excited about winning the Madascar Live tickets! Thanks so much Shan! Leilani will be so suprised :)

amanda said...

girl, who wouldn't like you??? this other mama would be lucky to count you as a friend. you ask her out and work your charm :-) really though, you shouldn't worry - you're amazing!

Heather B. said...

I don't understand why Mike can't watch the girls?

Shannon said...

Missed the point there, girly...

Heather B. said...

Oh. lol My bad, I didn't mean to insult. I guess I'm just frustrated cause I'm in the same boat sometimes.:)

Biz Dickmeyer said...

Shannon you are hilarious! I think anyone would want to hangout with you! I've never met you but I tell everyone about your creative genious ideas and how cool I think you are. If she doesn't like you I'll hangout with you, but what if you don't like me?

Shannon said...

BIZ! We should get the girls together! I don't know how it is that we've yet to "meet" in real life...

Gill Family said...

THIS.... I stalk mom blogs to, but most live out of state :(

Lala said...

I think about that sometimes--what my social life would be like if I had kids. Few of my friends have kids. Those who do are practically acquaintances because of our lack of ability to hang out due to babysitting/nap schedules/feeding schedules that prevent us from hanging out as often. It'll be easier for you to make mommy friends once J starts school. She'll want playdates and you'll end up hanging out with the moms of her dates and doing kidshares, etc. I know that's a couple years away, but it's something to look forward to! For now, you could look into playgroups on Meetup.com or consider putting J in dance class or another activity where she would make friends whose moms you might connect with. And stop stalking and speak up, lady! You're a catch!

Kristen said...

that is too funny... I wish we lived slightly closer and we could date! :)